Everyone is so preoccupied with the idea of love that some people cannot go beyond this. While some others do not even talk about this. Why this is so confusing? Well, love, for its irresistible influence upon human minds, has always been at the centre of attention of cross-sections of people.

I have come to know from the aged people of my acquaintance that there was a time when lovers used to share their feelings and transmit romantic messages through pigeons. One may refute it in this way that people got accustomed to such metaphysical communication as that age was not facilitated with modern amenities. But I think if those aged people are still asked to choose a sweet and romantic medium for exchanging heart feelings, they would probably yearn to go back to that old, but heart-soothing process instead of digital love of this twenty first century.

Years ago, the world was not so blessed with technologies and so, people used to meet their beloved very rarely and their eyes were means of commuting to each other. The young generation may find such love tedious, but it was not like that at all rather that love was true in the sense and their love was beyond any doubt regarding moral integrity.

In the later periods, lovers started communicating their feelings through letters. Penning epistle using romantic languages and dictions drawn from the core of the heart was really something appeasing though young generation may consider this outdated. Moreover, relations in that age have lasted longer wherein presently relations are very transient and commercial in a sense. Again, the lovers were more committed and devoted to each other than us, whereas youths, in this age, prefer frank and fanciful relationship.

With the advancement of technology and passage of time, we are now standing in the 21st century, when love has taken a U-turn in its styles and conventions. Young generation has transfigured love into such a form which is infused with hues that instigate abrupt excitement inside but without permanence. Love is also now defined in our society in several ways like time-pass love, cyber love, Facebook love, mobile love, etc. Couples nowadays sometimes simply make fuss and waste time in the name of emotional attachment.

Love is now very much related to money and pleasure rather than having a soul to soul appeal and such notion is pervading into people of all ages. That’s why we see that during the celebration of Valentine’s Day different business entities come up with unbelievable promotional offers. A section of people are capitalizing on such fake emotions and making easy money. For instance- last year Hotel Amari Dhaka offered a special package of Tk. 9 lakh for Valentine’s Day. Can you just believe it – Tk. 9 lakh for a mere package! Many couples even repented for not being able to attend that event. Such extravagance can never be a true indication of true love. Such offer points to the fact that love without money is now totally beyond imagination in this pesky world as girlfriends are white elephants. Roaming around here and there rain or shine, keeping girlfriend always jocund by gifting splendid and obviously precious gifts, feasting girlfriend’s companions with sumptuous food in the posh restaurants are part and parcels of a love affair wherein all of these activities are pompous and if someone is enthusiastic about such business, he must possess a healthy wallet. This is why Lord Dewar has said that love is an ocean of emotion surrounded entirely by expenses.

However, there is nothing wrong in modern-day relationships. The problem lies in the approaches. There has always been love in this world and it will survive till the doomsday. But the only thing to remember is that our love should not be a display of our obnoxious mindset and hedonistic behavior rather it should reflect our true passion in a meaningful way.