I used to teach a student before pursuing career in journalism. That student has a sister who is only three years old. She is definitely very cute and no doubt she is gifted with the heavenly innocence on her face. Anyone will love that little girl seeing the loveliness on her face but no one could possibly assume the harsh reality behind the smiling face. The reality is that that charming child cannot speak; she is literally dumb. The parents of that child are simply very sophisticated and good human beings. Still I found that sometimes the mother of that child behave badly with her. At the beginning such kind of behaviour disturbed me a lot as I thought that the parents should never misbehave with their children, no matter whether they are physically/mentally challenged or not. Later on when I contemplated over the matter I came to realize that the parents have also some reasons on their behalf. And the biggest reason to justify such behavior is probably that patience has also its limit. Humans must be patient but at the same time it is also true that they also have a boundary and when the test of patience goes beyond that boundary, people cannot simply endure that pain. The same is the case of that parents of the child who are enduring a lot but sometimes they feel really hopeless.

God tests humans in different ways; some of the tests are easy while some of those are really tough to overcome. One such difficult situation is when you have a physically/mentally challenged child. The parents just cannot ignore the physically/mentally challenged children because they truly want them. Meanwhile sometimes they feel really disappointed observing their helplessness against the will of God.

Everyone yearns to be a parent someday and when this wish comes true, he/she just feels like ascending in the seventh layer of the heaven. But sometimes the parents are not blessed equally and so some may have a child with birth deformities. At the very beginning they accept the fate and they try their level best to raise the child in the best possible ways since they put faith on God that some day that challenged child will get recuperated. In fact, some parents get the smile back after going through necessary medical treatments while some needs to stand the taste of time.

Parents having disabled children react in different ways depending on how much they are concerned about their children. Some parents react in a controlled way and consequently make pragmatic decisions while some others feel perplexed pondering over the fact that their child’s disability might affect the entire family’s life.

Again sometimes the parents feel really miserable thinking about the dreams for the child that get shattered with the passage of time if the disabled child does not show signs of improvement or recovery. There can be feelings of blame – directed towards yourselves and other people – as well as fear about the future.

The parents’ feelings can be influenced by how the child’s condition affects other aspects of life – it could have an impact on your work, social life, or even the amount of time you can spend on personal interests or hobbies. As with any family, the amount of support they have from others, such as life partner, family and friends, also affects how the parents feel.

The parents may face this whole range of emotions and I think this is justified. God is definitely merciful but God sometimes acts cruel to some. And the parents having physically/mentally challenged children are one of those who are deprived of the mercy of God. And the harsh truth is that some parents really cannot withstand the pain of patience by God.